Getting What You Ask For

First off, I’d like to express my gratitude to you for taking your time to read what I’ve written. It’s nice to know that people still read and that anyone would actually care about what I have to say. So thank you.

I started this blog last September and posted consistently for about 6 weeks until I stopped. Why’d I stop? Well I’d reached a point in my life where I’d become overwhelmed with what life had for me. I was over worked, anxious, stressed and depressed so I just set down all of my passion projects, the blog being one of them. What had really happened was that I’d put work and projects before my personal well being. I was physically, mentally, spiritually, emotionally unbalanced and exhausted. I needed to focus on getting “me” back to a place where I had enough energy to give out to my work and to others.

I made it through that temporary struggle and found myself in a good place by the beginning of 2015. I got back to working toward my goals and projects again. So why is it April and I’m just now getting back to writing? 3 reasons.

1st: I’m lazy. Didn’t fuckin feel like it. Lol

2nd: I’ve been refocused on my fitness business and have been putting all of my energy into putting together programs and teaching.

3rd: The world is finally telling me it’s time to start back up.

In the last 5 days, 3 different people have asked me when I was going to start blogging again or told me I need to start up.  I feel like when the world is ready for you to take that next step forward in your life then it will send you consistent messages telling you what you need to do.

I say the “world” is sending you a message but some people may say God, angels, the universe, your destiny, the force, whatever the hell you believe in. I’m not religious but I’m spiritual. I believe we’re all part of, and are connected by, something bigger.  Some underlying intelligence that wants nothing but love and growth out of each of us. I’m not trying to start a religious debate here, chill the fuck out. Just explaining where I’m coming from for the sake of understanding.

Anyways I believe that whatever we ask for on a consistent basis, we will get. Positive or negative. I’ve been asking the question to myself and to my world: “How can I best be of service to my world? How can I use my skills, resources, knowledge and passions to best improve the world around me? How can I share my challenges and successes so that someone else can benefit from my struggles? How can I expand my reach so that I can serve more?” I write my questions down and post them in visible places for a week so that every time I leave the house I’m thinking about them.

I’ve experienced that once I start asking questions consistently and keep them in the front of my mind, I’ll start to receive answers. I’ll read an article and something relevant to my questions will stand out. I’ll have a conversation and my friend will point out something that directly relates to what I’m asking. When I used to go to church, I would go into the sermon with my most pressing issue(s) in the front of my mind and EVERY TIME the pastor would speak into my issue and help me resolve it or move it forward.

I believe that we have the power within us to manifest what it is that we want if we’re willing to listen and then willing to do the work once we receive direction. NEVER in my experience have I received an answer that didn’t require work. The key is, once you receive an answer you have to start putting your energy into applying that solution to your question. You can’t just expect the universe (God) to put the effort in for you.

There’s this story about a guy stranded on a desert island. He’s asking and praying “God, Buddah, Muhamed, Universe please save me from this island!” (I’ll use God because we’re in Murica where Christianity is the main religion and the term God is most relatable

He asks and prays all day but nothing happens

The next day a guy rows up in a canoe and says “hey you need help?”

The guy goes “No, I’m praying for God to help me and I have faith in God so no thank you!”

The next day a lady motors up in a fishing boat and says “hey you need help off that island?”

The guy goes “No God will save me, but thank you!”

The next week a cruise ship rolls up and offers him a ride which he refuses again

Because he knows his God loves him and will come to save him

Two days later the guy dies

When his spirit re-joins God he goes “uhhh, God where were you?! I waited and waited and you never came to save me!”

God replies “I sent you 2 boats and a cruise ship, what the hell else do you want from me!?”

Cast-Away-1-1024x640So the moral I get from that story is that the world will give you what you want and what you need, it just doesn’t do it at the speed we want and in the way we want. We just have to figure out what we want at the moment, consistently ask for it and consistently LOOK for it. Then get to WORK applying the answers we’ve been given.


Another way that I “receive” messages is by looking at what brings me joy. I feel like anything that brings you joy when you do it (as long as it doesn’t hurt you or anyone around you), that’s a message that you’re meant to serve in that capacity. For me, teaching small group strength training and coaching large high intensity classes brings me joy and I shine when I’m fully engaged. So I’ve begun to decrease my 1on1 training, my weight loss clients, and rehab training because I don’t shine as much while doing those. I have the skill set to do them, but every minute I spend not doing what I SHINE at, I’m missing an opportunity to truly serve in my fullest capacity. And when I’m serving at my fullest capacity is when I can truly engage with and touch people.